One Ro, Many Roads

Hi Peeps, Please note there are triggers in this story. I mention sexual abuse. Please stop reading if this is a trigger for you. A few weeks ago I mentioned I have been undertaking Somatic Experience (SE) therapy. This therapy has been so helpful for me as part of the many other things I do to try and heal. Most of my anxiety and depression is held in my body. I would be constantly telling the GP about the physical sensations I have. The pins and needles in certain parts of my body, the knotted muscles, the soreness - I felt like they ignored this. The medication did not help these symptoms so I started to investigate. A few years back, I came across some somatic therapy information, it made sense to me. However, like anything it is another cost and when you are raising 3 kids with limited financial support from your ex you put them first. At the end of 2024, I came across a local Somatic Experience therapist. He popped up on Facebook. Yes, this time I lis...

 Dear Peeps, I have so many amazing people in my life, I just have to share them. I will write a series on them but in no particular order. As in the first one is not my most favourite, it is they are amazing and I need to acknowledge them. I love them all. Today, I am going to talk about 🌞. The back story is I used to work 🌞 when I worked in a Admin Management role for a Hospital. 🌞 was in the same office.  🌞 is one of those people who are just so positive even when the chips are down. She taught me to like hugs (I am not a hugger so that is huge for me). I love 🌞. 🌞 and I started a staff wellbeing group at this Hospital. Once a month we used to run a challenge or event and ask all the staff to attend. We did push up challenges, plank challenges, Melbourne Cup hat competitions and many other fun things. However, when I left to go to be a teacher 🌞 stepped up the program and started an annual fun run called the  Reddy Fun Run  .  This run/walk raises...

Dear Peeps, You all will have your own opinion on this but for me it is being a parent. Please notice the present tense as once you have a child, this job never stops. As you know S&P were amazing parents (I thank the universe daily for them). I was lucky to have such great role models, and also see some other great parents like S&G, my childhood BFF's parents 👩‍❤️‍👨. These are the people I modelled my parenting style from. I was 24, when I had my first child - beautiful little boy 🐒. I do want to acknowledge, I had a miscarriage prior so he was not my first pregnancy. He was the first grandchild and great grandchild on my Dad's side. He was so welcomed and so loved. Then 18 months later I gave birth to identical twin girls 🐒🐒. My son was only 10 months old when I found out I was having twins. I laughed hysterically when I found out I was having twins. Only a parent will understand why. I was determined to be a great Mum and with the help of my ex husband we made a...

Dear Peeps, So I know a lot of you have been married for many years. Firstly, I would like to congratulate you if you are still together and happy😀. But if you are unhappy and thinking of coming to the dark side here is a sneak peak. Dating Apps are really the only way to meet new people. Notice I did not write single, new people, because that is part of the surprise! You don't know if they are really single or not. You would have heard of Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. I have tried all of them. Bumble was great for casual sex, Tinder is great for entertainment, I mean I love reading men's profiles that ask you to treat them like a baby and change their nappies (no, I am not joking). Hinge was better for finding men closer to my location. Sadly, the distance you are happy to travel is something you end up searching on because you aren't going to sit in traffic for an hour each night after work to have a date. (Having 🙈🙊🙉 living with me meant I would never invite dates to my ...

Hi Peeps, As you know I have 3 🐒🐒🐒. The oldest is a male and the other two are female. Yes, I love them all equally, even though they say I have favourites. Like any mother, I have watched my son and his mates over the years. I have seen them grow into amazing young men. He has amazing friends who have supported him (as he supports them) for years. But sadly, sometimes I see them struggling with their place in the world. All over the news we see woman's rights and equality. This is great but many times these media outlets also show young men in a bad light. Men are violent, men are rapists, men are bad. Well, it is time someone spoke up. The minority of men are violent, there are a small amount of men who are bad and not all men are rapists. Shock horror, women are also violent, some women are bad and woman can be rapists. I hear boys talking about consenual sex and worrying if they should get a woman to sign something to say they agree to have sex. No, I am not joking. These yo...

Dear Peeps, We have all had mean stuff said about us over the years. But the teenage years are a sensitive time, especially as our body image is formed. I went to a high school in country Victoria, a small town, where they had a festival about potatoes and every year they crowned a Potato Princess🥔. For year 11 camp we got bused to QLD and spent 2 weeks travelling around. So cool! It was the highlight of your time at high school. I was so fortunate that S&P paid for me to go. 😍 First stop - Great Keppel Island aka Paradise!! We swam and hiked and just had fun with our mates. Second stop - Fraser Island - not as beautiful as Great Keppel but stunning in its own way. Just watch out for dingoes and mean boys. Mean boys? What does Ro mean? One night I was walking back to my tent, which I shared with 3 other girls - yes we did laugh and talk all night💕💕💕💕. I had amazing friends. I walked past a tent, which was filled with boys and heard one boy, lets call him 🤡 speaking. 🤡 said ...